A long day today

Only moments ago I got home from Ladies' Group as a couple of us sat around and talked long after the meeting broke up. At one point my phone rang, with Justin calling to make sure I was 'safe'. He was getting concerned that I was not home from Ladies' Group yet which normally had me home before nine. I like to keep him guessing!


This was my second trip to the church today, and my third for the week thus far. Tuesday is the only day that I have no need to go there this week. Wednesday is choir rehearsal and we are having a two-hour session in order to better learn our Maundy Thursday piece as well as our 'standard' Easter anthem. With our 'tiny' in number choir, the practice will be much needed and much appreciated. On a good day, we might have six people, but normally, more like 5 of us. Folks say we sound like more, though, which is good to know.


The first part of the day was Bible study, conducted by Michael, as pastor is busy with getting things ready for Holy Week services. We wrapped up our study of "What Must I Do to Be Saved?" with seven ladies in attendance. Joseph was absent and was not at church yesterday either. Must be tied up with his own ministry or else something came up for him.


All us ladies went to lunch, without Mike, and had a different waiter take care of us. Actually, it's waitress, and she was prompted by Jason as to what to bring us to drink. I thought that was pretty good of her to remember what we drank, since it's been a long time since she took care of us! I opted for a hamburger for lunch and brought half of that home with me. Justin had it for a snack when he got home from work.


After lunch, I went up to the Publix on the same property to exchange a jar of mayo. Justin had gone shopping yesterday afternoon and bought two jars of it, from the buy one/get one bin, and found one of them to be already expired. I simply swapped it out, no problem, and then picked up a couple other items to buy while there. 


As I went through the check-out, I asked the lady if she could use the same bag that held my jar of 'may-o', which prompted her to ask, "Are you from up north?" As I laughed, "Yes...", she welcomed me to the South. I thanked her and said, "I have lived here since 1988!" and she said, "Before I was born!", but I still got it, the accent, that is. Apparently the way I said, "May-o" gave me away,  the dragged out or emphasized "o" at the end of the short word.


As I headed back to The Palace, I remembered needing to stop at the accountant's office to pick up my completed tax return. Thankfully I do not have to pay additional taxes but must make my first quarterly payment before the 15th. I always think of my niece, Lisa, in Sheboygan as she works towards the end of the tax season. Hang in there, kiddo!
                                             
When I got home, I posted on Facebook about the 'accent' encounter happening to me yet again in just a little more than a week's time. What a fire storm of comments this elicited! One Friend now in LA remarked about how expressions we used to use in our hometown have no meaning in the South, while their expressions or descriptions for things were so different for him as well. Mike mentioned something called a hosepipe, which I thought might be a spigot or tail pipe on a car. Nope, it's what those in his part of Louisiana call the garden hose! No kidding! Like the bubbler/water fountain discussion, most regional, as is soda/pop. What fun that was!

Tomorrow I must work on the newsletter for The Palace as I am a bit behind the times, here, for no apparent reason. I will be sure to include the photo of the double rainbow which smiled on the river outside our building on Saturday evening!

Palm Sunday

This was the sight which greeted me upon arriving at church. Carol got there at the same time and when I told her how nice it was, she remarked that they are smaller branches than other years. I assured her that they were fine, did the job of reminding the community and us all that it is Palm Sunday. The teens or older school kids were going to work with Paul on assembling the palm crosses to be pinned to our garments for the day. I did see two boys handing them out, one who came after the crosses were already made.


Paul's dad plus his two half-brothers have come down to FL for a vacation, which is their first time since Paul and Emily's wedding in 1999. Paul looks very much like his father, remarkably so. Tomorrow they are going to the beach and do some other fun touristy stuff in the area while Paul and Emily are at work. Not sure if Sarah is on break this week or not, but she was quite excited about having her uncles and grandpa come for a visit.


After church Justin and I went to Chili's with only the Chappell's, as no one else was available to join us.Terri T. couldn't come because she was going to the County Fair. Mike S. still had a few dollars left on his Chili's gift card but declined the offer to join us. Judy J. was not up to it, or something, so our small group went alone.                                          
                                    
I get the triple appetizer, switching it up to include chicken tenders added to my two portions of potato skins. The uneaten portion I normally bring home (about half) to have at a later time. The chips can be microwaved to make them fresh for eating at home, and neither of us care for the salsa they sent along. It comes in handy if I make something with a tomato base, like soup or chili.


The nacho chips are free, which Justin gets through his participation in FourSquare on his cell phone. He told me he is the "Mayor" of FourSquare because of the frequency of his visits to Chili. Nearly every Sunday now we go there after church, a practice which began during football season so I could see the game while we ate. Talk about being a needy friend!


As we were finishing up, I looked out the window to see our friend, Amber, and her granddaughter, getting into their car. She had told Judy they were going shopping so we didn't ask her along with us. Rats! It is wonderful that not only is Amber in church nearly every week but now her granddaughter wants to come to Sunday school and church. I watched in worship as Amber tried to show Reagan how to follow along in the hymnal, like she was shown about four months ago! 



Justin and I had a nice quiet afternoon, just doing our own thing. He had vacuumed the kitchen and my bedroom on Saturday. Taking some of the time to 'read' one of his books, "The Hunger Games II", he took a break from getting his room straightened away. After seeing the first movie a week or so ago, he has read (listened to) the first book while working and is now on the 2nd in the series, and loving it! I have learned so much about it simply listening to him recount the story line to me. Between this book series and "The Walking Dead" (yech!), I am getting quite an earful!

Weekend photos

Saturday morning, I was chatting on Facebook with Linda J. when I noticed the gorgeous sunrise. I excused myself from the conversation to snap this photo. A gift for Linda!

Later in the day, at the end of the heavy rain showers, almost audibly these double rainbows appeared over the river. Just as I pulled open my sliding doors to snap the photos, I could hear my neighbors also opening their doors, ooohing and aaahing over the dramatic, lovely sight.

                                             

Here is  the other end of the rainbow, although my friend, Rick, claimed he saw the other end in Middleburg!

 In the morning as Linda and I were chatting, Fox and Friends had a segment on about analyzing people's desk---what does their desk say about them and their work habits and their output. Mine was not horrible, not yet disturbing my piece of mind. Linda's idea was the better one---photograph the view instead! I look out, and see rainbows!

Remarkable proportions

Not mine and not anyone elses, just the day!


My friend, Carol, sent me an e-mail this morning indicating Randy and she would not be at Breakfast Club because they needed to attend a funeral (lots of funerals this week!). She didn't want me to sit there alone, although I am okay with it. Mary called me later on to report that she was laid up with some illness requiring antibiotics so it's good that I didn't go to The Club. That is two weeks in a row that I have missed it, and I am getting hungry for their fried baby red potatoes!


It was also fine to miss breakfast since I had lunch plans already in place. I was meeting a newly reconnected Facebook friend, Belinda, who is married to one of my former employees/coworkers. She is a published writer, mostly cookbooks, as well as being the editor of a local paper in the past. Presently she works for one of the State Colleges. We had met up a couple years back at a Writer's Conference at the Beach, and as I mentioned, once more via Facebook. Gotta love that Facebook!


We had a wonderful time chatting, even though the time was limited due to her being on a lunch hour (or two!) but we managed to cover many topics. Her daughter attends the same magnet school that my friend, Rita's, son attends, and they are the same age at that. She was telling me about self-publishing and how e-publishing is getting to be the rage. Not sure how that would work for cookbooks but for essays and briefer manuscripts, it might fly. I told her the story about my dentist visit where I had my book from Linda, "Killing Lincoln" in my hand at the desk. The receptionist told me she is reading the same book right now on her Kindle, and the dental assistant reported she is listening to it on a download. All reading the same book, at the same time, but on a different venue. Interesting and amazing!!


 Justin was borrowing my car for the evening and offered to run to the store for me, in case I needed something to serve for dinner. Betty, my dear friend with whom I also worked for years, was coming over for dinner. Our meal was made the night before by Justin, the pork chops with cinnamon apples on top. Oh, my, just as good as the first time they were cooked! I needed nothing but it was nice of him to ask. He was going to his friend, Ron's house and then out to Bahama Breeze for dinner with his pals. It was too bad he was gone by the time Betty arrived as she would like to have seen him again.


We just sat and talked, I so enjoy hearing about Betty's classes she is taking for her degree in business. Some of the classes are kicking her butt, so to speak, this semester but she is hanging in there. One of her gripes is that the professors who grade her papers for proper grammar and usage scarcely can write a complete sentence themselves. I had a teacher in high school who left there to teach "engineers how to write" at a school in the neighboring county. What does that mean, exactly? It means that just because a person can figure out how to build a road or erect a building does not necessarily mean they can write it down...

When I left home in  the morning to meet Belinda, Connie asked me if I had ticked off some birds or something. Not sure what she meant, she directed my attention toward my car. Oh my goodness! It was literally sprayed with whiteness. I believe the birds put out a contract on my car, which Connie offered to hose off before I left. I was simply roaring with laughter at the sight of my car, but had to get going to make my appointment. On the way home, I stopped at the car wash to get it cleaned off. That car is starting to cost me money---two car washes in one month, new tires, and a torn fender. Yikes!

"We help each other sing..."

Today we are saying 'good-bye' officially to one of our longest and oldest members of GS, Arlene. Last year around ThanksLiving she was expected to pass away. But, Arlene hung on, even managing to go home for a few weeks recently before having to return to the hospital where she then died. 


In between the hospital last year, and going home a few weeks ago, she had resided in a rehab center where she seemed to rally. Friday, the rally was over and she awakened in heaven. Now, only Joe remains as patriarch of the congregation, and as his grandson in NC declared, Joe might easily outlive us all! 


My friend, Rita, sent me a note indicating I would not see her at Bible study since she had an appointment, and told me all the other people who were not going to be there either. I had been toying with whether or not to go, wondering if the timing would work out for the funeral service and such. When I let Pastor H. know I was not coming, he sent me a text message indicating that class was cancelled for this week. And none next week either due to Holy Week. No worries---I get to see Rita for lunch on Saturday! We have had little face time recently and will make up for it dining al fresco at the Town Center!
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Judy J. had asked me bring a salad for the luncheon to be served following the service so when I left home, I was carrying a lovely glass bowl with me. Connie saw me with my bowl and asked what was up. I told her a good Lutheran always has a dish to pass, but usually there is something in it!!! Publix was providing me with their delicious macaroni salad which will present nicely in my Lutheran dish...


The congregation numbered about 45, just about equal numbers between members and the other mourners. Arlene liked to play bingo, several times a week when her health was good, so some of those folks came, as did a few of their neighbors. We got to visit with some former members, confirmands, of GS, including  the children of Rena, who passed away years ago. I had seen them last at the wedding of Tony, who is Arlene's grandson, 8 years ago. 


Debbie, Arlene's daughter, has poor health as well, took early retirement or is on disability at this time. Periodically over the years, Debbie's daughter and her family of five have lived with Arlene and Debbie in their cozy home but presently Debbie is alone in the house. Since she retired, she has been training alongside of the church secretary to help out in the office, which is great, having more than just Lynne and me. I used to enjoy the work but do no longer. Like working by myself at home instead!


I did work at home this a.m., before the service, putting the final touches on the newsletter and got it ready to be e-mailed. Also, I printed off color-copies for a few of my favorites who do not have Internet service, so they can see the pictures and graphics included in the e-mailed version. The one I send to Lynne for her to print at church has the graphics removed in order for it to fit on two sides of ledger-sized paper. The photos and graphics add much to the letter, do some of the talking many times. Someone donated a mess of ledger paper so that is what she uses for the hard-copied newsletter, as well as the jumbo sized service folders used once a month. Hard to fold those to shove in one's purse!


Arlene's service was very nice, starting with the hymn "I Know that My Redeemer Lives", which I struggled through. We sang the first two stanzas and the last two, not the 'where is thy sting, death?' ones. I sat with Carolynn H., one of our newer members, and I told her she would have to help out singing that one. She asked me how long ago it was since Timmy died, and I told her, "Yesterday...", and she nodded. Then, I told her it was 11 years, and she said, "It probably feels like yesterday..." and I said it does, especially when attending a funeral. It all comes back, with the same happy ending for our loved ones who die in faith. 


The other hymns were "Just As I Am" and "For All the Saints". "For All the Saints" is quite easy for me to sing, despite the text. For some reason, that one does not stop me in my tracks. And we sang "Alleluia" before Lent was over...I am sure it's okay when it's for a funeral.


The Fellowship Hall is under renovation so the middle room in the classroom building is used for meetings, some Bible studies, fellowship, and now, funeral luncheons. It was crowded, hard to move around between tables once people were seated. (It was since decided to not set up as many tables for Easter breakfast) The food was available in the hallway which worked out okay. And there was plenty of it! Besides the sandwiches which Judy C. and Betty put together, there were the donated salads and fruit, and the desserts! I took seconds on the creamy fruit salad that Fran brought, instead of having dessert. Judy J. sent home a container of her baked beans for Justin and I to have for dinner.


As we sat at the table talking during the luncheon, Ethel and Darwin were across from me, Carolynn and Bonnie on each side. Ethel said she would like a service like Gordy had, lots of hymns. I mentioned how Jennifer, a former member, and I helped each other sing at Gordy's funeral. I had promised Terri T. that I would sing out as Carol had told her to listen for my voice to help bear her up. (Yikes, Carol!!!) Jennifer and I decided we would help each other, as I knew I would falter on "In Christ Alone" and she needed help on another hymn. Ethel remarked how great it was that Jennifer and I were there for each other, and I said, "That's what Christian friends do---we help each other sing!"


Once I got home after the funeral and luncheon, I was bushed, so I took a nap. Less than 30 minutes in length but out like a light! I had to reset my computer to catch the portion of the program I had slept through. Whew! Not sure why I was so tired, unless it was from the fruit salad. Justin was working for his father today and called me before coming home, wondering what was for dinner. Baked beans, of course!
                              
Actually, he offered to make a dinner of pork chops and spiced apples, if I didn't mind waiting until after Bible study to eat. I was fine with that, since I was full yet from the late afternoon luncheon. He bought a container of the spiced apples when he went shopping on Tuesday night and it made a lovely dish for us. He browned the chops and simmered them with the cinnamon apples over the top. There was enough left for Betty G. and I to have for dinner tomorrow night when she comes. Nice!

A day of emotion

On my desk is a sales flyer from K-Mart where I never shop, so wonder how come I find myself leafing through it. These 'packs' of ads come via the mail for those who do not subscribe to the local paper. This was told to me by Connie, our maintenance lady, and she got it likely through the letter carrier, who lives in fear of me!

As I page through, there before me are the little kids' outfits for Easter, which makes my lip curl under as I remember buying such outfits for my little guys. Mom made them their every day outfits, or many of them, but for church, they often got store-bought vest outfits. Timmy loved his vests and wanted to wear a neck tie like his brother and father did. My church/work friend, Rebecca, who also was the preschool teacher, gave me a bunch of clip-on ties for Timmy, since she knew he liked them so well. One of the ties is in his memory box under the portrait, clipped to his uniform shirt worn for "Monday dress" day.

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Tuesday morning found me in the dentist chair once more, this time to be fitted for my new crown. As I wrote on Facebook: "I am soon leaving The Palace to be fitted for my new crown...perhaps I should get some bling, or a very nice wood!" It turns out there is gold in the crown, to use as an anchor so the bling will be there, visible only on an x-ray!

I enjoyed my time in the chair, nitrous oxide strapped to my nose, deeply breathing and relaxing. Peggy numbed me up perfectly, gums only, as she removed the temporary tooth, packed the area for making the impression (I like to make a good impression!), but had to do it twice. It seems somehow, I have bubbles, both times! Oh well...

The chairside assistant was not Yvonne although she was the one to prep me for the happy gas. The other lady, whose name I did not get, was thinking I was having too much after effects from the gas, but the staff assured her that this how I really am. "She even smiles when in pain!" Not too sure about that one! Peggy gave a nice discount on my bill, thank you, and I was on my way. 

My upstairs neighbor, Nancy, had taken a tumble upon leaving a show downtown, seeing "The Jersey Boys", unescorted. While folks helped her get back up and dusted off, she drove herself to the ER to be checked over, having a bloody lip and black eye as a result of the fall. Hearing this on Sunday, I sent her note expressing my sorrow over this news and asked what I could do to help her out during her healing time. She asked me to come and play Scrabble with her. OKAY! 

Nancy is a gracious Southern lady and allowed me to win---that's how nice she is! We played one game and she wanted a chance to beat me, but I took leave. "Always keep 'em wanting more"---a good author like Nancy should know this!

When I came home from the dentist, I met my downstairs neighbor, Tracy, in the courtyard. I asked her how she was, and she told me that MamMa was basically near death, and no one is sleeping in their house except MamMa. Oh my goodness! The Monday that Linda was here I saw Willie Mae coming home on a gurney and she told me she'd been in the hospital. I did not even know this, nor did I know she'd taken a bad turn since getting home. Oh my!

I offered my spare room to any over flow guests they get, family coming to town to see her once more, or after she passes away. And then I went down after the Scrabble game with a devotion book, and my new prayer book, a gift from the Elders. 

Her caregiver, Virginia, was standing at the bedside, as Willie Mae snored loudly. Assured that she could still hear, despite what seemed like deep sleep, I read to her, and to Virginia. What a difference a week made, but certainly at age 91, she was done fighting. Medical folks come and go, Hospice comes and goes, and naps by family are caught in between.

Before I went to play Scrabble, my friend, Joanne, called to tell me that her father, Clyde, had passed away. When we spoke on Thursday, she said he was hanging on by a thread, 'something' was keeping him alive. Since no one in her family could confirm it, Joanne's pastor had baptized him. This had made me weep then, and did again after Joanne told me he was gone. 

From the left is Clyde, Joanne, me, Olivia, Justin, Richard S., with Owen as the photographer

Clyde was a character, almost gruff in personality, but I only knew him as an old man. He was in the Air Force, graduated from UW-Madison at a doctor, and worked with NASA for the space launches. His daughters were all raised in Belgium, where he was stationed, as they used to visually track the space crafts. He also was involved in the selection of the chimps for space, and Joanne has the black and white photo array to prove it! In later years, Clyde worked for Upjohn, which is how they ended in MI rather than back in WI. He will be buried in Racine, next to his wife and his parents.

He was sort of an agnostic, would not admit, with his vast intellect, to being a religious man. But Joanne, and me also, is comforted with the fact that he recited The Lord's Prayer at his wife's memorial service. She also believes that he saw the glory of the Lord before he breathed his last, as the nurses reported that he had tears running down his face when he died. I pray for everyone's sake, he is seeing the glory of the Lord in heaven.

Referencing once more the movie "The Bucket List", there is a scene on the private jet which comes to mind for this situation. The rich man, Edward, is arguing about the Creator, filled with doubt that someone could just say "Let there be...." and create such wonders as those seen through the plane window. Carter, on the other hand, a man of faith, believed that the Creator was responsible for it all. Edward, sort of surrendering the argument, said, "I don't know--I just can't wrap my head around it." Carter, resting against his seat, sighs, and says, "Maybe your head gets in the way..." Oh, yeah, you nailed it, Carter!

Bright spots

At the risk of encouraging disaster or unexpected excitement, I have thought of a few things to mention which are bright spots.


After church on Wednesday night, the Ladies' Group, with me as their queen, had to assemble for a quick meeting in the back of the church to address our Befriend a Mission monies. As the 7-8 ladies gathered 'round, our pastor's daughter, Anna, stuck her head into the circle and asked, "Miss Kim, would it be okay if I put you down on job applications as a reference?" SURE!!! I told I would be honored and would give her a good reference. 


She was second person to ask me this in a couple days' time so my phone should soon be ringing off  the hook (a cliche which means little to most people these days!). It is an honor, I believe, to be asked this. My friend's daughter, Erica, who returned mid-year from WLC, asked me about being a personal reference for her, but she went on her interview with a company, and was hired on the spot in January. I never got a chance to tout Erica's good qualities.


Last week was the fashion show/luncheon/fund raiser at The Club, for the Quigley House. Before it began, I was 'working the room', saying hello to folks I had not seen in a while and so on. Everyone was dolled up which is fun to see when some I only know from the pool in swim wear! One lady came up to me, gave me a big hug, and told me she had sought me out. Katherine said something to the effect of "I knew you were coming so I had to find you"...talk about a warm fuzzy. Another lady, also a Realtor with the first lady I mentioned, greeted me before she had to leave to get back to work. We agreed it's nice to be able to touch our friends in the flesh instead of only via the Internet. So near, and yet so far!


I had been asked to move to Table #1 to sit with The Club owner and her group, to make room for a lady who had no seat. There were ladies whom I had not been introduced to at the table, and because the event got started, we had to wait until afterward. One lady seated across from me came up to me, and I thought she said she knew me from somewhere. Due to the commotion in the room, I misheard her, but as our conversation grew, it seems she did not know me, but said she wanted to. Oh my! 'Laureen' got a kick out of me, she said, and said I was bright and cheery. She should see me when I hit a bag of rocks!