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Saturday, March 21, 2009

"The Social Contract"

There seems to be so much anger these days, all around us. Even inside of us. It seems I have written or thought enough about grumpy stuff these past couple days. The Board Meeting started this ball rolling, where I had to fend-off being pressured to serve but agreed to speak on behalf of the Board at the Annual Meeting next week. Yikes!
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I am now listening to a House episode called "The Social Contract" where a man suffers from some brain malady which "forces" him to say exactly what he is thinking, removing his inhibitions and politeness. He says hurtful things to those he supposedly loves, criticizes others around him, including their physique, or praises their physique if he is not related to them. Quite crass and vulgar things. How come never truly praiseworthy? Is everything ugly that is left unsaid??? One of the doctors was told by the patient that his nose was too large and another doctor had a false bedside manner. When discussing it later, the two doctors reinforced each other, playing down the large nose and friendly nature each other has, according to "the social contract". We just do not do those things which are deliberately hurtful or cruel----right?
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This was sort of like what my dad experienced when he was manic during his bipolar episodes. The psychiatrist claimed this was the real "Bob" coming out, and at the time, we felt like the doctor was out of his mind. In hindsight, what the doctor was saying was most likely true, but fortunately our "balanced" nature is to mind our manners, keep inappropriate thoughts out of our mouths and heads, and pray that the Lord will make that happen in us. Something chemical or physical can remove the "brakes" on our nature which keep us within the "social contract" of decency, morality, and not saying the first thing which comes into our heads.
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The Lord has worked in us, helped us to keep impure thoughts and actions away from our lives, and gave us the strength we need to battle against the old evil foe. It seems nowhere is safe, nowhere or nothing we can do to avoid hard, hurtful feelings, sometimes even from people whom you would not expect to dish it out. Whether in our homes, at church, out in public, in courtrooms, on the street, on the news, endless doses of acrimony and dissension. Just wait until the Congregational Meeting and Annual Owners Meeting this coming week......
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Once this patient is cured, fixed with brain surgery, Dr. House remarks that now this man can return to his normal "happy hypocrite" state, which means not saying the first thing that comes to his mind, keeping his snide and hurtful comments to himself. Why does this sound so negative instead of positive??

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree with you about the anger. Lately here there have been many episodes of domestic violence over the stupidest things. Of course drinking or doing other drugs just enhances the anger. Sometimes I find it hard to distinguish bewtween frustration and anger now with people. Many times I have to stop myself from saying anything so as not to cause a situatiuon. We shouldn't have to walk on eggshells especially at work.

Kim Lahaie Day said...

Hi Jill,

It seems anger boils to the top more quickly, or is it closer to the top all the while, and we just do not notice it?
How do we deal with it, personally? You answered it---think before you speak, and make the distinction between frustration and anger!

You nailed it!

Kim

Anonymous said...

I guess going to counseling with Dan and going by myself has helped me in certain situations. As many say life is too short so enjoy it don't be angry all the time.

Anonymous said...

I could hear all the passions in this blog....

I posted the sermon I gave today over at

PassionatHLC.Blogspt.com

Peace.

Dave

Kim Lahaie Day said...

Hi Jill,

Certainly working through things with the counselors is the way to go, but remember the supreme Counselor offers the needed refuge from the storm!

Love and hugs,

Kim

Kim Lahaie Day said...

Hi David,

Thanks for the comment and picking up on the sentiments expressed or unexpressed. Have you seen this episode of House? You can find it on hulu.com right now....wow, it was so much like Dad was at "manic phase". I would not have wanted to ride the elevator with that patient, imagine all the cruel, but true, things he'd say about me!

I will visit the website to read your sermon. Hope it went well!

Peace to you, also:

Kim