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No longer on the river and, again, an empty nester. Back to living on Fleming Island and making some more friends!

Monday, January 19, 2009

I have a new normal!

Bible study was also a bit tear-provoking, but for another reason other than it being Timmy's birthday/funeral day. We got to hear Pete sing on the Come Worship Christ video again! In a foreign tongue, German perhaps. Loved to hear him singing once more...
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After Bible class six of us headed to our haunt of Longhorn for our repast. We all had something totally different than our usual, which really messed up Patti, the waitress who takes care of us weekly. I told her, "So much for using the pre-printed forms" she uses for us, jokingly. We are no longer predictable. Twila and I shared the prime rib sandwich, as I did with Chris on Saturday, perfect sized for us.
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Kelly T. asked me if I was going to the cemetery after lunch and I told her I was going Michael's for supplies for the ladies' group brunch. She was attending a funeral at Jax Memory Gardens so when I got done at Michael's, I drove over there, hoping to catch her before she finished working on her sister's gravesite, changing out the floral arrangement. I did find her and she joined me at Timmy's site. We spent some time together there as I waved to the guys coming and going on their carts and in their trucks. Even the mortician stopped by to chat with me, as usual, and we talked after Kelly left for her funeral. Damon is always quite nice to me, and expressed, in front of Kelly, that he had never experienced a funeral service quite like Timmy's. Nothing ordinary about it, and Kelly said, "Kim doesn't do anything ordinary!", truly lightening the moment. He said it was the first one and only one that had "satellite" worship set up. Timmy's funeral brought the most people ever to Good Shepherd, not before or since has our church been filled to overflowing!
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Damon asked how I was doing and asked about Justin and I told him our plans to have dinner as usual at "Taste Tomatoes" tonight. He made the comment that I had to go through a lot of stuff in a brief period of time and said he admired me. Great, Damon, give me a chance to explain how all this is possible----but he already knew how the Lord enabled me to survive and then to flourish under the adversity. Seeing these guys, my boyfriends, at the cemetery, even the two who had to jump into the hole to lower the coffin, was a good thing to have happen today.
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Wednesday when Justin and I were at the gravesite for lunch, he had leftover windshield fluid which he put into my car while we sat there. Mike, the head guy of the grounds, stopped to say hi and see if all was okay with my car. I explained that Justin had extra fluid and was putting it in my car, and Mike exclaimed, "That's your boy??" He couldn't get over what a big boy Justin was, even though we've seen Mike out and about other places. I told Mike we only put a balloon out so as not to break the rules about decorations, and he said, "You can do anything you want", but it's when other people follow suit that it becomes a problem. Of this I am aware, and I won't press the issue, I am sort of over that. What my sister-in-law, Mona, referred to as "a new normal", which she said I can use if I want to! My new normal is to visit there less frequently, not pile all sorts of memorabilia on and around the marker, not make the cemetery a destination. Take the flowers by when they are available from the church altar and ease on to other things. Eh? A new normal!
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I am listening to "In Christ Alone" on my computer and it is such a wonderful piece, peace.

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi Kim,

I remember the day we went to the theme park (I don't remember which one), and while we were waiting in line to go into Neptune's Kingdom, or whatever, Timmy put his arms up, so I picked him up and he fell asleep on my shoulder. Roger kept asking me if he should take him, but I didn't want to let go of him.

I also remember how he sat between David and me at Lisa's wedding, fell asleep, and did some very heavy breathing during the ceremony.

And then there was the time we were taking a walk in your neighborhood and starting playing "Red Light, Green Light" with him. He left me way behind and wouldn't give me a green light. He turned around and said to me in his deep voice, "Have a Nice Day."

I still have the box from the Take Apart Truck I gave him for Christmas on my closet shelf. I never intend to throw it away.

Thinking about you and Justin today. Love, Lori

Kim Lahaie Day said...

Dear Ella (Lori),

I didn't want to let him go either, but had to.......

These remembrances are without price, value without measure, and won't show up on a financial affidavit anywhere.

Have a nice day!

Love, Kim

Anonymous said...

Kim ... you're breaking my heart. I'm so sorry for your loss, but I am so thankful you have much to look forward to with Timmy in heaven.

Dave Schipper said...

When we share the peace it sure isn't the 60's peace, it's the peace of mind that all will be right. A dear friend at work lost her 26 year old daughter... Nila is also a WELS and very strong in her Christian belief but the grief is overwhelming at times.

God's Peace be with you.

David

Kim Lahaie Day said...

Hi Jami,

I am sorry for breaking your heart but it pleases me to know that you also know that we will reunited in heaven with our Lord and our loved ones!

Blessings,

Kim

Kim Lahaie Day said...

Hi David,

Yes, the peace we experience is that which the world cannot give, and what we so long for. I remember about your co-workers' loss, an accident, I think. I'd love to be able to reach out to her if she'd been willing to speak with me.....

Love you,

Kim

Anonymous said...

Hi, In Christ Alone is a great song.
My son Dennis (the pastor) says it's the only song you need!!!

Diane

Kim Lahaie Day said...

Hi Dee Dee!

Your son is so right! Ask him how he feels about "Jerusalem, the Golden" from the Christian Worship Supplement. It is sung to the tune 'thaxted' and is so glorious to hear and sing, the pictures of heaven and our Lord it paints is amazing, incredibly comforting! Music soothes the savage breast? Oh yes, it does!

Hugs,

Kim